Since then we hangout about twice a week. We go to the movies, dinner or the occasional movie night at his place. We have already been intimate and its great. He always makes little comments about how he wants to take me to some restaurant or place he likes or how we are spending more time together. He always holds my hand, hugs or kisses me in public or when alone and sends the occasional text message asking how is my day going.
Should I just ask him, or is it too soon? And after a month spending time together and being intimate it is completely reasonable to have that conversation. It sounds like you are falling for him, so you need to know asap if he feels the same way. Ok I will as soon as see him. But base on what I describe, What do you think? Can all be an act? We had fooled around randomly throughout college no sex , nothing really came of it, it was always just drunken fun.
He never talks about her and the only way I know they are together is bc her facebook page says so. However, his facebook page, says nothing of her. While this girl and my self went to college together, I do not consider her a friend. I know I need to eventually talk about the nature of their relationship. However I still feel guilty. But, does it even matter if we are just friends with benefits? You need to let him know you are looking for more.
I thought we should probably get onto the same page about this.
IвЂ™ve created a flowchart describing the anatomy of relationships today:
BOOfy Obviously, I have no way of knowing what he is thinking. Over the phone is never a good way to have a serious conversation if you can help it. Thanks so much for your time and advice. So I texted him this morning just saying hello and asking how is he doing. Is cool, just dont be a Stranger.. I liked that chart.
Anyhoot, you left a bolded sentence above regarding other indicators he has feelings, and I believe, though have yet to confirm, these are also indicators that a hookup is falling. Why am I talking about this? Thanks for leaving a comment! I have to say, it does indeed sound like he is interested. All of these are good signs. On the other hand, he may be falling for you and wanting more.
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I would say that if you can hang in there for a while and see where this goes it might be worth a shot. At that point, ask him what he is thinking, and if he is determined to keep it casual, walk away. You could actually do that now, or at any time, but I can understand why you might want to give him some time without pressuring him. If he wants to take this to the next level, though, he will. Meanwhile, I urge you to keep meeting new people, dating, etc. There is no reason in the world to be monogamous with a FWB. It may be that knowing you are seeing other people will give him an incentive to commit.
How emotionally invested is he? If he does, then you can move forward and stop worrying. There are definitely signs in your description of attraction and possibly attachment on his part. If he did get hurt by the previous gf, he may not be ready for another commitment. You need to know asap so that you can keep your level of involvement equal to his.
This is a very painful story. And, I need help.